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spartacus
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I hate this any time I pass incredibly hot women that I'm into I can't make eye contact. Anyone else I'm totally not shy at all. This is bullshit!
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StaceyMck
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Oh yes, I completely agree that it is vital to have honesty between both parties. However, I personally just wouldnt feel right sleeping with someone else while being committed. I think it is very important to have friends of both sexes within a relationship. Yes, it is natural to be attracted to someone's personality or looks; however if you are ...
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spartacus
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pretty sure that's the whole idea behind a relationship lol
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StaceyMck
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Well exactly, thats what I am trying to say. If you are in a relationship with someone you actually care for (which is really the only way it should be) then it should be monogamous. Otherwise you are just with someone for the convenience and have an agreement to mess with other people; which is a whole other topic..
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intrepid_kiss
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I always thought the idea behind a relationship was two people who loved/cared for one another choosing to emotionally commit themselves to one another.
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StaceyMck
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Yes, it is a state of connectedness between two people; mostly emotional. However physical and companionship between the two parties are also a relationship. I personally could not be "in love" with someone while having romantic feelings for another. Yes I may think another guy is good looking; however that is an attraction and not an emotional bond. I don't ...
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intrepid_kiss
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I think sex can be just sex.
And I think it can be more.
It depends on how you approach it.
One of the contentions for my approach was that if the person I'm with is having sex with someone else, that it be strictly sex. And if it would be ...
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Detritus
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Speaking from a personal standpoint, if I'm in a happy and fulfilling relationship, I have absolutely no desire to sleep with anyone else. I can still make aesthetic comments regarding other females, but as far as attraction goes, it's largely if not completely absent. I'm horribly monogamous, and can honestly say that I will never cheat... and I hate meaningless ...
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intrepid_kiss
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Many people feel the way that you do, M. But there are others that do still find themselves sexually attracted to others. The basis of the 'open' relationship for me is that both parties feel comfortable sharing those feelings.
Frequently, people in open relationships don't even take advantage of the ability to sleep with other people.
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spartacus
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I saw a thing that said in Japan it's ok for husbands to have relations with someone else as long as it's paid for and not with love. I doubt that's all that accurate but nothing shocks me overly these days.
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Detritus
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What you described there, I think, is one of the most fundamental elements to a successful and healthy relationship. Honesty and open communication, not just about sexual matters, but about everything as well, is a necessity for a relationship to prosper, and for the two people to grow together rather than apart.
That said, I wouldn't refer ...
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intrepid_kiss
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Aye. Well, I wouldn't really care if the person I was with had sex with someone else. As long as it wasn't behind my back and so on.
Of course, in that situation, I'd have the freedom to do the same.
But I can't imagine any situation where I actually would use that freedom. ...
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spartacus
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sounds more like insecurity to me lol
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intrepid_kiss
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How is it insecurity by any means?
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spartacus
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afraid of guys leaving you so you give them every option just to hold onto them if you can call it that
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intrepid_kiss
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That made me laugh.
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intrepid_kiss
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If I was insecure with my relationship with them, I wouldn't want an open relationship.
I wouldn't be able to be in an open relationship like that with someone I didn't trust.
But I don't know how you've contorted it to insecurity. Or to my being afraid someone will leave me.
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Artsitis
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sounds more like insecurity to me lol
actually... you have to be a lot MORE secure to engage in an open relationship... otherwise, fears of someone leaving you for someone else they're fucking would rip you apart.
hard to have that kind of relationship without security and ...
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spartacus
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Actually there's women that will do anything to keep their men with them. It's actually one of my friends reasons for divorce. His wife got way too crazy and would like keep trying diff ways to satisfy him just to hold onto him. She went nuts and he had to get rid of her. It doesn't make sense but this ...
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intrepid_kiss
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Are you calling me an irrational freak?
That's actually probably my downfall in relationships. I'm quick to say if you're unhappy, leave.
I need to work on compromising.
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spartacus
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not saying you're irrational saying his ex was
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